Last week G and I made our way to a local salvage company. I was on the hunt for some really cool chippy wood to use for my hat racks. It was raining and there was a TV show being shot in front of the building so we had to park down the block. I could tell G really didn’t want to be there. I rummaged through a stack of wood until I had four decent pieces set aside. As I climbed off the pile and turned, there she was, green, chippy and dirty. I was in love. I ran over to her. Sure, she was missing a pane of glass and the top needed to be replaced, but she was perfectly imperfect! Continue reading
After owning a gourmet food business for the last 28 years, it was time to say good-bye and turn the reins over to a younger, fresher mind. What to do now? My food business consumed such a huge part of my life for so many years, that I lost myself in it. Make sense? Working 7 days a week in a 10,000 square foot warehouse, keeping track of hundreds of ingredients, production schedules, employees, taxes, bills, packaging, equiptment (I could go on and on), I lost who I was and the things that I enjoyed doing – just because I enjoyed doing them.
Yes, I loved the food business and doing the trade shows and creating new products, but I also love other creative things. Photography, one of my real loves. DIY projects. Decorating. Artistic design. Sewing. And then there are the things that I WANT to learn. I want to learn glass blowing. I want to take an advanced photography class. I want to learn to work with clay. I would even love to take a woodworking class. I love painting furniture and bring back to life pieces that have seen better days or that have been forgotten and abandoned. I enjoy that creative process so much. There are so many things on my to do list that I kept adding but not scratching anything off.
I also had to consider my husband, he retired from the automobile business 8 years ago and was doing deliveries and helping with the business. “G” is my love! We have been together for 36 years now. I was 21 and he was 39 when we started seeing each other. Doing the math? Yes, that’s 19 years difference!
I never felt it, I honestly never felt the age difference…until he suffered a heart attack. It was scary and eye opening. Roles are starting to reverse. There are a few new issues to deal with now. His metal ability is not what is use to be and that is being watched and evaluated. He had a major eye problem a few months ago, so that is being treated and watched. We learned through some tests that his neurologist took, that at some point he has had a mild stroke.
So here I am faced with a business that sucks every minute of everyday out of me – out of us. Notice the words I used in that sentence? Yes, I was starting to dread what I use to love. Time for a change, time to move on, time to reclaim my life!
So, what do I hope to accomplish with this blog? What are my short term goals? Long term goals?
I’m not sure if anyone will ever even read this blog, but if someone does come across it and it helps them in anyway, well, I will have accomplished my goal in writing this. I have always tried to empower the women around me. We are stronger than we think. I have also been the type of woman that doesn’t like to depend on anyone. I love doing things for myself. I love knowing things. If I can show someone that didn’t think they could do it, that yes you can do it, then I will have accomplished my goal. Whatever it is, caulking your tub, changing out a light socket, painting that dresser. Not every woman is blessed with having a handy DIY‘er husband. I know I’m not.
As for my short term goals? I have a long list of short term goals! My house needs some TLC. With the hours that I put into our business, I barely saw my house. I noticed that my home had turned into a house. I put away a lot of the little things that turn a house into a home. Trying to make things a little more manageable when I had time to clean. So, I will be taking a little area in each room and making it into a home again. BTW…I live in a 1950’s ranch house, I use to call it a Cracker Jack box but I think I’ll start calling it a “cottage”. It is small, 1500 square feet small. So I don’t have a lot of options when it comes to moving furniture around or even bringing new furniture in. But I have some ideas floating around. So anyway, my goal is to start knocking things off my list of home projects. Some I will be doing myself. Some I will be enlisting the help of my handy dandy son in law and my really talented brother and some I will have to hire out (we all have our limitations).
My long term goals? Number one is taking care of “G”. He is my main focus right now. Getting him to doctors appointments and making sure his needs are addressed. Lately, I never know what the day is going to be like. Some are better than others. Some weeks are better than others. I laugh. I cry. But, it is what it is and I will make the best of it. I don’t want to be a downer and I want to keep it light. But I do want to be honest about having a husband that is 19 years your senior and the difficulties and changes that it brings. I want more time with my family and friends. Something else that was neglected.
I have already started a new business of course. I have to make a living. So, I am creating new things. I not only have reclaimed my life, but I am reclaiming lots of other things. I opened a little place on Magazine Street in New Orleans so I can have an outlet to sell and a storefront on ETSY.
So here it is my first blog. Now lets have some fun. We can do it!